How to Make Up Your Mind
Help for People Who Are Chronically Indecisive
The course of our life is shaped by our decisions, but surprisingly, many people are struggling with decisions –whether big or small. But then to really live a fulfilling life, we cannot be forever on the fence being a mere onlooker as life passes by.
Let's listen to Benedikt Ahlfeld (author & entrepreneur) talking about how we are a result of our decisions, hence, demonstrating the power of decision-making. In this short video, Mikael Krogerus & Roman Tschappeler talk about "How to make good decisions" showing us the mechanisms of decision making. They also explain the three stages in the decision-making process: preparing, timing & regretting. In addition, Craig Fox of UCLA, sheds light on three types of indecisive behavior from a Psychological-behavioral perspective.
If you're indecisive, don't cut yourself short. Chronic indecisiveness isn’t a personality trait but a behavior (stemming from habit) that can be changed. You can learn making good decisions –just like you learn driving a car. It’s a skill you can train for.
Here are helpful keys to becoming less indecisive:
#1. Step away from fear. It's highly likely you're afraid of something if you can't make a decision. Take time to sit, identify and write down the fear, and ask yourself what you'll do if it happens. Is it actually possible to happen? If so, how will you manage it?
#2. Truly listen to your emotions. We have trouble making decisions when we over analyze. In fact, the more we are informed and the more logic we apply, the decision is only getting tougher. Set a time limit on your researching and pondering. Then ask, "Which one will serve me best, A or B?" Quickly rate each option. Then, go with your gut –it's the one you gave a higher rating.
#3. Practice on small choices. To become great at making good decisions, it takes practice. Start making little choices every day, shoot for 10 choices. As things build up throughout the day, make faster decisions. Don't put it off (unless it's a consequential life-changing choice).
#4. Evaluate: Will this matter 5 or 10 years from today? Sometimes, choices appear bigger than they actually are. If making a certain decision seems daunting now, will it really matter after many years? (Even if the answer is YES, many decisions can be reversed, but be realistic about the risks that come with it).
#5. Learn to have faith in YOU. List your strengths. Find ways to incorporate these into your decision-making process.
Please note that if you tend to be perfectionist, learn to accept "good enough" because nothing's perfect all the time. "Good enough" is better than no decision. If you or someone you love is feeling stuck with major life choices, come to JarvisHypnotherapy. We have the tools to help you break free and become your TRUEST self.