In terms of self-improvement, our society typically favors (and rewards) individuals who are self-assured or self-confident. But perhaps a more effective strategy for success and personal development is self-compassion.
As an example, self-compassion encourages you to accept your mistakes and limitations while self-confidence helps you feel better about your abilities.
Additionally, you are more likely to view your flaws objectively and realistically once you have accepted and acknowledged them. As a result, your life can change in more positive ways.
Self-compassion is not about feeling good but it's about how well we treat ourselves.
"Self-compassion is a practice of goodwill, not good feelings… With self-compassion we mindfully accept that the moment is painful, and embrace ourselves with kindness and care in response, remembering that imperfection is part of the shared human experience," explains Dr. Kristin Neff, renowned author & University of Texas Psychology professor. As co-founder of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion, she was responsible for putting self-compassion on the scientific map. Her research work, along with more than 3000 studies, has shown the amazing benefits of self-compassion for our wellbeing.
We've learned from the previous article that self-compassion has the following primary components:
· Self-kindness
· Mindfulness
· Acknowledging imperfection
· The concept of shared humanity
Tune in to this podcast with Dr. Kristin Neff and learn more about self-compassion: Psychology Professor Reveals How To Silence Your Inner Critic.
Also, let's watch Peter Sage's talk about our hidden, unconscious patterns and belief systems that sabotage our own success: How To Eliminate Self Doubt Forever & The Power of Your Unconscious Mind.
Benefits of self-compassion
Self-compassion requires understanding the distinction between making a poor decision and being a bad person. The practice of self-compassion helps you realize that making bad choices does not automatically make you a bad person. Instead, you are aware of the unconditional essence of your value and worth. It provides you a sense of self-worth but not in a narcissistic way, as self-confidence occasionally can.
What's more, those who practice self-compassion have better emotional intelligence, are more connected socially, and are generally more content with their lives. They are also more empathic, caring, and supportive.
Research indicates that those who are self-compassionate have less depression, fear of failure, and anxiety. Research also suggests that self-compassion can be a motivator that leads people to improve on their mistakes, failures, or weaknesses because they perceive things more objectively.
Moreover, according to an article on the power of self-compassion by Harvard Business Review, self-compassion is a stimulant for a person to adopt a growth mindset. It also prompts individuals to be true to themselves as self-compassion helps people to gravitate to roles or careers that more closely fit their personality.
Be inspired by Brené Brown's talk about vulnerability, shame, hope, and worthiness: Brené Brown | The Most Eye-Opening 14 Minutes Of Your Life.
Get more dose of self-compassion from this video: Self-compassion: An Antidote to Shame.
If you need help from a trained professional learning and practicing the skill of self-compassion, just reach out to JarvisHypnotherapy.
Plus, here are more insights on wellness from JarvisHypnotherapy: How to be Kinder to Yourself: Steps to More Self-Compassion.
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